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Last Word
Essentially Loh is right – if it’s meant to be,
then it will be. You and yours may struggle. You may find yourself
exhausted and tired at the end of a semester simply because you’ve
only seen each other one or two times. You may find you have a new
sense of independence and more time to be with your friends. And
you may find that although a long-distance relationship can be hard,
it can be worth it.
Although
there are simply no guarantees in relationships (or in life for
that matter) here is some simple and helpful advice:
1. Know your partner’s expectations (and make sure s/he knows
yours).
2. Talk, talk, talk, and talk.
3. Make agreements as to when and how frequently you will talk.
Will you take turns calling each other? Will you only have “heavy
conversations” in person? Will you only talk at night?
4. Understand you will have to compromise – and accept the
fact your partner will have other friends, other experiences, and
practically another life without you.
5. Let your partner know you care—send little notes, instant
messages, and other romantic things.
6. Don’t play detective. Trust your partner.
7. Be supportive, encouraging, and proud of your partner and his
or her accomplishments at college.
8. Be flexible and willing to compromise, especially when trying
to plan a good weekend to get together.
9. See each other as often as possible.
10. Think of this simply as the “ultimate test” for
couples. Make an effort to eventually have an end goal for the long-distance.
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Delighted
to be published in unbound, Lauren Frederick is a junior journalism/professional writing major and
women & gender studies minor at the College. An avid writer, reader, and basketball player, Lauren
hopes to graduate in May 2004 and pursue a career in the publishing/professional writing field.
She'd like to
thank all those who helped her with this article, and all those who willingly
shared their experiences. And she'd also like to thank MHA who is a constant
inspiration.
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