Hold on. Too nice? How is that possible? You’d think that the nicer the better right? Well, if you really look at it, it makes sense. As relationship counselor and author of “Men Are Jerks Until Proven Otherwise,” Daylle D. Schwartz points out, there is a different between ‘nice’ and ‘doormat’ or ‘icky’ nice. “People like this,” continues Schwartz, are “just too needy” and “ready to give themselves away to anyone of interest that comes along.” Basically it comes down to the fact “some people just don’t respect themselves and it’s hard to be attracted to that.” As Isadora Alman, author of the “Ask Isadora” relationship column of The Village Voice, said in response to a “nice guys finish last” letter, you don’t have to “act like an asshole” you just have to realize that “self-confidence is an attractive quality.” Also, not only does insecurity make you unattractive, it makes you a target. According to a rant posted on the Heartless Bitches International Web site (a scary place indeed for the nice guys of the world, yet still full of surprisingly relevant information) insecurity is “a big red-target for the predators of the world…looking for a sucker to take advantage of” (www.heartless-bitches.com).